Neil Pasricha's Monthly Book Club - November 2023

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Hey everyone,

How you holding up?

Our place has been full of midnight fevers, junkyard dog coughs, and screams from the basement. "More tissues! More tissues!" Poor Leslie has gone down with the ship. Been the ship, really. She was, however, in top form on her first-ever feature podcast. We just dropped it as a Bookmark called "Tips to Be a More Peaceful Parent."

I also released a longform "live from New York" conversation with human rocket ship Sahil Bloom. And on the next full moon (Monday!) I'll be dropping a chat with Ralph Nader. Still fiery! Btw: If you're new to the pod start with David Sedaris, Brené Brown, or Quentin Tarantino.

Last thing! Our Book Of Awesome – the first awesome book in a decade, written collectively with all of you! – drops in paperback on Tuesday. It's got a new HOT PINK cover and I put a review in below. Grab a copy for you or someone you love right here.

The world does not want us to read books! Every screen seduces us farther away from the deeper, richer world of compressed wisdom waiting for us in the pages. I love our reading rebellion. If you know someone who'd like to join us send them here.

Here are my book recommendations this month!

Neil

1. It's OK To Be Angry About Capitalism by Bernie Sanders. I remember reading a New York Times Op-Ed by Bernie Sanders a few years ago called "The Foundations of American Society Are Failing Us" and being struck by the clarity, concision, and power. Apex communicator! (He just wrote another Op-Ed four days ago called "Justice for the Palestinians and Security for Israel.") Do you see what I mean? The world is just so messy, blurry, and overwhelming and we need penetrating voices – master distillers! – to offer us clear views. Bernie is one 82-year-old elder doing just that. This book contains ten passionate, rallying-cry chapters that smartly fold together stories, research, and reminders about big laws that were headline news for a few weeks a few decades ago but have disappeared as news. The result is some kind of slow, almost grotesque, pan shot of the state of the US. Chapter sub-heads include phrases like "Health care is a human right, not a privilege", "Children should be taught to think – not educated to be cogs in the machine", and "Political reform requires alternatives to a for-profit media system that dumbs down and diminishes debate in America." Each chapter is its own manifesto and I found my heart beating faster and faster while reading. "If someone were to offer a senator $100 to vote for or against a piece of legislation," he writes on Page 116, "it would, by any court of law, be considered a 'bribe.' Taking that bribe could land that person offering it – and the senator taking it – in jail. If that same person were to put $100 million into a super-PAC for that senator, their spending would be considered perfectly legal. It would also, if successful, win the donor a very close and grateful relationship with a very powerful elected official." We know truths like this, but Bernie has a way of spelling them out in arresting ways. "Made you look", he always seems to be saying. "Our struggle is against a system where the top twenty-five hedge fund managers in the United States pocket more money than 350,000 kindergarten teachers." Exactly. Or how about on Page 124 when he shows how the US spends more than double, per capita, on health care than the UK, Canada, France, or Germany, and yet ranks at the bottom on longevity, accessibility, and coverage. "In other words, we are getting a terrible return on our huge expenditure on health care." You can skip around the book. I flipped past some rehashes of election campaigns or specific bills but loved the more elevated macro-level ideas he borrows from countries around the world such as the zoom-in on learning from Finland's education system. (Spoiler alert: elevate teaching standards through pay and trust, reject standardized testing, ban for-profit private schools, etc.) The book shares how the US got where it is – and what can be done to unwind a lot of the damage. Do I agree with everything? Of course not. Books aren't brains – they're views. But there aren't many views more pointed, sharp, and passionate than this one. Highly recommended.

2. Chess Story by Stefan Zweig. A hundred years ago Stefan Zweig was one of the highest selling and most translated writers in the world. This is the first book I've read by him and I can safely add: For good reason! He had a tumultuous life. In 1934 he fled Austria for England as Hitler was gaining power but then, years later, ended up listed in the 'Black Book', which convinced him to flee further to Brazil. I imagine him writing this tight, gripping 84-page "one long boat trip across the Atlantic" novella on his … long boat trip across the Atlantic. It tells the story of a group of people who encounter the chess world champion on their boat! They challenge him to a game! He soundly defeats them! But then … another challenger emerges with a haunting past and the story swerves wildly. A short book to help you get back on the reading train. Vivid, welcoming, and a pace that accelerates as the story goes on. This is Zweig's last book and was submitted to his publisher just two days before he and his wife died by suicide in Rio.

3. Under Milk Wood by Dylan Thomas. Do you know the poem "Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night" by Dylan Thomas? I thought I did! But I think I really just knew that one line – "Rage, rage, against the dying of the light" – from like a dozen different movies. I never ingested it, you know? Fanned it in slowly like perfume. Because that's what it deserves. It's a stunning bit of writing. I suggest reading it here and then listening to Dylan Thomas reciting it here. If you feel something there I think you'll love the high-flying literary acrobatics in this much longer 1954 BBC radio play transcript that Dylan wrote just before his death at age 39. This is truly one of the most wild things I've ever read. I found it hard to take in more than a fraction of what was going on -- but the words, you'll see, they just keep pulling. Under Milk Wood is a 95-page fast-paced "day in the inner lives" of a small Welsh town. That's it! But the wordplay, the twisting – it's got a vibe like Lincoln in the Bardo (04/2018). Here, take a look, this is two pages near the beginning, featuring an inner conversation between Mrs. Ogmore-Pritchard and her two dead (though still alive in her mind!) husbands, Mr. Ogmore and Mr. Pritchard:

Mr Ogmore: I must blow my nose.
Mrs Ogmore-Pritchard: In a piece of tissue-paper which I afterwards burn.
Mr Pritchard: I must take my salts which are nature's friend.
Mr Ogmore: I must boil the drinking water because of germs.
Mr Pritchard: I must take my herb tea which is free from tannin.
Mr Ogmore: And have a charcoal biscuit which is good for me.
Mr Pritchard: I may smoke one pipe of asthma mixture.
Mrs Ogmore-Pritchard: In the woodshed, if you please.
Mr Pritchard: And dust the parlour and spray the canary.
Mr Ogmore: I must put on rubber gloves and search the peke for fleas.
Mr Pritchard: I must dust the blinds and then I must raise them.
Mrs Ogmore-Pritchard: And before you let the sun in, mind it wipes its shoes.

There's a lot of moving parts here and it adds up to something insightful, absurd, and genius.

4. Too Loud A Solitude by Bohumil Hrabal. If you're living under a stable government, thank your lucky stars. The Czech Republic wasn't so lucky in the twentieth century as they went, in order: monarchy, republic, parliamentary democracy, Nazi invasion, communist state, Soviet invasion, and then, in 1989, revolution. Bohumil Hrabal lived through most of that over his 83 years from 1914 to 1997. No wonder in the 1950s he joined an underground literary collective before his right and ability to publish was fully banned. Yet his writings lived on a samizdat – a word I just learned combining sam ("by myself") + izdat ("publishing house") – that was a form of dissident activity where censored books were hand-copied and hand-handed-out. This fiftyish-year-old book was a fascinating read on a few levels. Slim, dense, first-person narrative of an old man near the end of his 35 years working as a paper crusher who secretly finds and stashes rare books he comes across … taking them home and sleeping among them. There is a unique, scattered, mentally anguished, psychologically overwhelmed feeling throughout that I found both addictive and sometimes too much. The "living under an oppressive regime" vibes come through. Yet it adds up to a wonderfully unique read. "I am a jug filled with water both magic and plain" writes Hantá, the narrator, "I have only to lean over and a stream of beautiful thoughts flows out of me. My education has been so unwitting I can't quite tell which of my thoughts come from me and which from my books…" Indeed! The New York Times boasts in a cover blurb that this is a "remarkable story about the indestructibility of books and knowledge". Sure. But there's also a lot of pain. A book for forever-reading readers who want to take a dim, literary trail less traveled down one fascinating little string of our infinite pasts. "When I read," says Hantá, "I don't really read; I pop a beautiful sentence into my mouth and suck it like a fruit drop, or I sip it like a liqueur until the thought dissolves in me like alcohol, infusing brain and heart and coursing on through the veins to the root of each blood vessel." If you relate to that you'll find a lot of sentences to love in here.

5. Our Book of Awesome: A Celebration of the Small Joys That Bring Us Together by Neil Pasricha. Time flies! It was a year ago that Our Book of Awesome came out and you know what that means: Paperback time! And for the first time ever my publisher decided to dramatically change the paperback cover, too. Hot pink! Why? Well, my fault: I pushed for the original "rainbow on black" motif that was successful for The Book of Awesome thirteen years ago. Only problem? People thought it was that book not, uh, an entirely new collection. The book spent a few months on bestseller lists but I'm told it didn't hit with the walk-by, what-is-this, lemme-take-a-look crowd. So bring on the pink! I'm really proud of the book and I think you'll love it – it's my highest-rated book on Goodreads – and imagine it on bedside tables, backs of the toilet, or as gifts for a great teacher. The book is ultimately about community with the awesome things as a unifying force in the face of all the pressures and overwhelm in the world. I wrote about 80% of the writeups (maybe 300 new awesome things) and the rest are curated from over 10,000 awesome things submitted by all of you from around the world. I also sifted in comments, entries, and letters to try and give it a "we're all hanging out together" vibe. So it's over 400 pages full of awesome things like: Completely nailing the timing on that avocado, When you're getting a package delivered when you're on an important call and the dog doesn't bark, Showing old people how to do something on their phone, Discovering a shortcut the GPS doesn't know about, and Sending a private message during the video conference and then seeing your coworker look down and silently smirk. Here's the tweet string I wrote sharing where the book came from. And some sexy press when the book came out includes NPR's Here & Now, CBC's The Current with Matt Galloway, Maria Shriver's Sunday Paper, and The Rich Roll Podcast.

6. Smart Sex: How To Boost Your Sex IQ And Own Your Pleasure by Dr. Emily Morse. Dr. Emily takes readers on a beginner's A-Z course to pleasure and intimacy. She starts off pretty far back from the starting line: talking about how masturbation won't give you hairy palms, for example. But the road steepens when she gives lists of "Sexual Bucket Lists" (a long laundry list of sexual acts for you and your partner to privately mark off "yes", "no", or "maybe" to and then share back) as well as exercises that include lists of questions to ask to open conversation you may not have had. ("Which celebrities turn you on?", "What is the freest sexual thing you have ever done?", "How do you feel about getting drunk or high for sex?", etc). Her tone is sort of People magazine-y: light, loose, educational, sometimes awkward. (Page 223: "Anyone with an anus can enjoy pegging.") I think this is a good book for anyone learning about sex – filling in gaps in the sex-ed curriculum, with material presented thoughtfully and engaging – but overall a bit of a skimmer.

7. Childhood Unplugged: Practical Advice to Get Kids Off Screens and Find Balance by Katherine Johnson Martinko. I was speaking to a sixth-grade public teacher last week. "It's getting bad," she told me. "A few years ago maybe one kid in my class had a phone. Now half do. They're texting in class. I ask them to put their phones away and we can still hear them all ringing. I sometimes go answer them from the coat cupboard and it's always the parents!" Hmmm. I asked a principal what percent of principals he thought might support a cell phone ban in schools. "I'm not sure," he said. "At least 90%." Sometimes when everyone has an addiction it looks like nobody has an addiction. Smartphones are still a new technology but before they completely enshroud and cajole our behavior, often with devastating consequences, it's healthy to take pause, read books like this, and then figure out our way forward. Pair this with Jonathan Haidt's recent articles "Kids Who Get Smartphones Earlier Become Adults With Worse Mental Health" and "Social Media Is A Major Cause Of The Mental Illness Epidemic in Teen Girls. Here's the Evidence."

8. A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens. "Marley was dead: to begin with." Definitely on my top 10 list of Best Opening Lines! This is a must-read if you, like me, never took the time to wade into the story beyond the culture-penetrating Disney knockoffs. George Saunders made this one of his three most formative books and I love finding different versions of it in used bookstores and falling back into it again and again. The book is short! Less than 100 pages usually. It's a big gulp. Or just read two pages a day and you'll be done in no time. This 1984 edition I just found is 122 pages with a lot of full-page paintings by Greg Hildebrant. Much shorter than Dickens other classics and perfectly timed for the holidays. Plus, given it's 180 years old (!), you can grab it out of copyright on Project Gutenberg.

9. You made it to 9! But there is no 9, my friends. Just some random salty bag fries at the bottom: I really love Nick Cave's Red Hand Files -- especially his recent advice to "Sing, Eugeno, sing." I put together a list of 7 books I recommend reading before bed (instead of the news). A cozy Canadian painting. A cartoon that haunts me. The original trailer for 'Our Book of Awesome'. And, lastly, I really enjoyed the first three episodes of the new podcast from Mark Manson.


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